Tattooing has been around for thousands of years. It is one of the oldest forms of art, laden with as many different meanings as there are global cultures. My husband and I are both tattooed, we both have careers, we live in the city, we live in a condo, neither of us has ever been to prison, we are not substance abusers, we support charities, we love animals and we do not beat or abduct little children.
It’s all fun and games when you are young and carefree – society is more likely to accept your tattoos and move on with their lives, but I have found that the rules change a little when you become parents. My family is open-minded yet somewhat conservative and I knew hardly anyone with a tattoo. I was always different, I liked bright colored hair, I listened to all genres of music you can think of, I was fascinated by the extreme sports culture.
My career never suffered because of my tattoos, people stared, asked questions, but no-one was ever rude. I will never forget the first day that my appearance attracted a negative comment- accompanied by a snarl and a look of utter disgust. I was a couple of months pregnant with Sara, you could just start to see my baby bump. I was sitting in the waiting room at my gynecologists’ office when the woman opposite me said to her husband “Why can someone like her with tattoos have kids .” I knew she was saying it out of hurt and anger of her own personal situation, but it cut like a knife. This woman didn’t know me, how could you possibly judge someone like that? Does she not know that I can hear her??
I often get asked about how I think my tattoos will affect Sara – I always wonder that myself. I hope they do. I hope they teach her to be accepting of different kinds of people and to never base her opinion on someone’s looks alone. If more kids had that lesson growing up – we’d have a lot less adults who are quick to judge solely based on appearance and stereotypes.
My experience has been completely different and very positive as time goes by. I am not sure if it is because we are older or if society has just become more accepting of tattoo’s. Either way, this is how it should be.